Magic Words to Save the Marriage

Did you ever think that a sincere “I love you”, “Thank you” or “I am sorry” spoken at the right moments might just save the marriage and spare you a lot of suffering and complications in the future? People tend to underestimate the power of words, but remember, the entire world was built upon a word.

Words can strengthen your relationship or weaken it. If you let your discontent out in a hysteric manner, you will drive your marriage on the brink of divorce. Sure enough, frustrations can bottle up and explode after a number of years. But it is your decision whether the result is fireworks or disaster.

Decry the Situation, Not the Person

If something dissatisfies you, do not point your finger at your spouse. Keep in mind that it is the situation that bothers you, not your partner. Do not begin your sentences with: “You always do…”, “You never do…”. These will trigger your spouse’s defense mechanism and raise tension. Remember that the problem involves both of you, so it is a “we-situation”, not a “you-situation”.

Instead of casting the load on your life partner, you could say: “This situation has been upsetting me for a while. Let’s talk about it.” You will sooth the conversation and may avoid a big fight.

Lighten up and Save the Marriage

Try to keep your tone down. Words that are yelled always backfire into arguments. Lighten up and use explanations, not reproaches. It is one thing to cry “You are never home!” and another to say “It seems to me that we don’t spend as much time together as we used to”.

Say “I am sorry” when you know you are wrong, even if it’s hard on your ego to admit it. It will work wonders for your marital problems.

Say “Thank you” when your partner does something for you. Think of the effort your spouse put into it. Do not take things in your relationship for granted.

Say “I love you” as often as your heart tells you to. It will be music to your spouse’s ears and it will come back to his or her mind if you ever need to save the marriage.

 

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